How To Handle Your Emotions

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Mark Manson, the author of 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck," explains how to better handle our emotions. Following is a transcript of the video.

Mark Manson: My name is Mark Manson. I am the New York Times best-selling author of "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck."

How do I control my emotions? How do I stop getting angry so often, or how do I stop being sad? And I think there's a really important distinction to understand is that you can't completely control your emotions. What you control is your reaction to your own emotions. And a lot of people don't ever make that separation for what goes on with them.

Somebody in their family does something. They get really pissed off, and then they react very poorly. And instead of blaming their own behavior, they blame the emotion itself.

And what's interesting about emotions is that the more you try to control them or to bottle them up, the stronger they get. So, the more I try to stop being sad the sadder I'm going to get. The more I try to stop being anxious the more I'm going to freak out over a bunch of little things.

So, it's very paradoxical, but the key is to actually just let go of trying to control the emotions. Just let them — it sounds super cliche — but flow through you. And then actually focus more on "What are the behaviors that you're doing to react to however you feel?"

When you're able to do that the result is that things actually become much simpler. Your emotions — they actually … they don't go away, they don't change. It's just that they're not as important as they used to be. It's like "Oh, I'm angry right now. But I'm still doing the thing I want to do." or "I'm sad right now. But I'm still living my life. I'm still accomplishing the things that I want to accomplish. It's getting this separation between your emotions and how you identify or justify you the things that you do in your life.

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22 Comments

  1. Prashanth JS4 May 2018 at 04:30

    I'm here because of the thumbnail!

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  2. mysterous human :34 May 2018 at 04:30

    I cry a lot and get bullied about it so thx..

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  3. PHOENIX Rocks4 May 2018 at 04:30

    I don't give a fuck

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  4. madhu sai4 May 2018 at 04:30

    I know I know.see his face with all emotions trapped in,like a balloon but the problem is he's not bursting it out.due to this, his face buldged out.

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  5. madhu sai4 May 2018 at 04:30

    Don't control anything spill everything out but in some cases u should control not always

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  6. Taylor Bruch4 May 2018 at 04:30

    I got Type1 Diabetes,became deaf.I’m kinda used to my life and body fucking itself up.I’m pretty emotionless these days

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  7. Jeff Will made It4 May 2018 at 04:30

    GENUIS

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  8. Fabrizio Davila Angles4 May 2018 at 04:30

    Fuck this shit no one can't tell anybody how to handle their own emotions every person is a hole different world so you have to learn it by you own and it takes a lot, but fuck it is worth it.

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  9. Haroon G.C4 May 2018 at 04:30

    thank you. I think this is a good advice

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  10. Zarth Kade4 May 2018 at 04:30

    Im not going to listen to a guy from the fucked up times

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  11. ShaneOMac 2094 May 2018 at 04:30

    Easy’er said than done

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  12. Danzan Battumur4 May 2018 at 04:30

    so i wasn't controlling it, rather was handling it. it actuallymakes sense tho.

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  13. Frank Bagley4 May 2018 at 04:30

    (((New York Times))) = fake news outlet

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  14. Γενναίος Αστέρας Ναβι4 May 2018 at 04:30

    Dormammu!
    I've come to bargain

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  15. Pepper Detongcom4 May 2018 at 04:30

    I just breathe in breathe out ez

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  16. Much Glenn Very Wow4 May 2018 at 04:30

    Oh hai Mark!

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  17. Kaito Gaming4 May 2018 at 04:30

    The title is HOW TO HANDLE YOUR EMOTIONS and The thumbmail is DONT CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS wtf

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  18. Nico Marin4 May 2018 at 04:30

    0:01 I failed already

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  19. Carlos Corona4 May 2018 at 04:30

    That’s ACT

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  20. Jennie Sapherson4 May 2018 at 04:30

    So easy to say, so Impossible.

    ReplyDelete
  21. Leo4 May 2018 at 04:30

    Study Stoicism ladies and gentlemen

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  22. *ARE YOU WATCHING* *CHANG'E*4 May 2018 at 04:30

    U have eyebags, r u ok???

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